MORE THAN COPING... NEVER SAID I WASN'T BROKEN.
SO JUST BECAUSE
I AM LIVING MY BEST LIFE, DOESN'T MEAN I DON'T REMEMBER.
SAID I WAS...
Remembering the events, the good, the beautiful, the sad, the traumas. Those events define us, build us up, tear us down or break our hearts. When we are faced with a traumatic event the brain will freeze the moment, takes a photo so to speak. And we remember... So what does that mean when we are trying to live our best lives. It means we are only human, we cannot pretend
some events didn't happen or that they don't impact us in huge ways.
We live in a world where we as a society want everything to be good, happy and safe. It gives us an unrealistic outlook on life, which can then only guilt us when we are feeling low. We want everyone to be alright, well and happy which is of course the ultimate goal, especially for those we love. But is that an unfair expectation? Are we pressuring people to be more than they can be in a moment?
Are we guilting them to always push on, push forward, to stand up when at times we need to stay low? Stay where we are and instead know that it's okay to be where we are for a moment. It's okay to not be okay. To be allowed the pain, shame, sadness, insecurities or any other emotion we could be experiencing at the time. I believe if we don't recognize the emotions we tend to minimize them, and they show up in other ways. It can show up physically putting our health at stake, it can show up through addictions putting the wellness of our minds and bodies at risk, it can show up in anger putting others at risk. Trauma can manifest itself into the largest thief of the human soul.
So instead let's recognize trauma, let's stop it in its tracks by stepping into the suffering. We are so readily anxious to step in and celebrate the easy things, the good stuff. But let's really step in where we are needed...